I often don't talk about my relationships. No really, I don't. I'm not exactly "boy crazy", or ever had been. I guess I am desensitized to the opposite sex. However, when one of my dear friends at school states that they haven't seen their significant other in 5 hours (or sometimes, even less), I can't help but get annoyed.
I am in a long distance relationship. The love of my life (and the person I have had a crush on since I was fourteen years old... say it with me.... *awwwwwwwww*) is over 800 miles away from me completing his degree in Nuclear Engineering in the deep south, while I am all the way in the tundra, layering clothes and counting down the hours until I graduate. We live completely different lives, but somehow always find a way to make time for each other for a quick phone call at night when we're both hunkered in bed, or a long-distance movie date.
I feel like with this distance, we appreciate each other a lot more. We rarely fight, and when we do, it stems from the frustration of being so far away from one another, which we quickly identify. I feel that those couples who are together all the time and argue all the time, is just, well... not healthy. Bryan and I are two different people and two different lives and although we love each other very much, we don't cling to each other. I have seen many relationships while in college (and been in some myself) that fed off being with them all. the. time. it was unhealthy. When you do not have any balance or "free time" when you are young and in a relationship, how can you develop yourself as an individual?
I am blessed to have the man in the life that I do. He was the first person to drop everything when I was discharged from the hospital after being sick and drove 500 miles just to spend time with me and make sure I was okay. We always talk about how much we miss each other and think of plans when we are reunited (usually once every semester), and how we are going to be together so very soon.
Long distance relationships are definitely a challenge, but they are worth it. Its nice to have someone that I could call on a moments notice and listen to me, and vise versa. Although I'm on the outside looking in, I have only seen a handful of relationships that still function in a healthy matter while spending exuberant amount of time together. I think it takes strong, already independent individuals for this to work.
I wouldn't want to look like I was co dependent on my significant other to define my existence, I want my significant other to be an extension of myself - even when they are 500+ miles away.
I am in a long distance relationship. The love of my life (and the person I have had a crush on since I was fourteen years old... say it with me.... *awwwwwwwww*) is over 800 miles away from me completing his degree in Nuclear Engineering in the deep south, while I am all the way in the tundra, layering clothes and counting down the hours until I graduate. We live completely different lives, but somehow always find a way to make time for each other for a quick phone call at night when we're both hunkered in bed, or a long-distance movie date.
I feel like with this distance, we appreciate each other a lot more. We rarely fight, and when we do, it stems from the frustration of being so far away from one another, which we quickly identify. I feel that those couples who are together all the time and argue all the time, is just, well... not healthy. Bryan and I are two different people and two different lives and although we love each other very much, we don't cling to each other. I have seen many relationships while in college (and been in some myself) that fed off being with them all. the. time. it was unhealthy. When you do not have any balance or "free time" when you are young and in a relationship, how can you develop yourself as an individual?
I am blessed to have the man in the life that I do. He was the first person to drop everything when I was discharged from the hospital after being sick and drove 500 miles just to spend time with me and make sure I was okay. We always talk about how much we miss each other and think of plans when we are reunited (usually once every semester), and how we are going to be together so very soon.
Long distance relationships are definitely a challenge, but they are worth it. Its nice to have someone that I could call on a moments notice and listen to me, and vise versa. Although I'm on the outside looking in, I have only seen a handful of relationships that still function in a healthy matter while spending exuberant amount of time together. I think it takes strong, already independent individuals for this to work.
I wouldn't want to look like I was co dependent on my significant other to define my existence, I want my significant other to be an extension of myself - even when they are 500+ miles away.
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